Sunday, February 26, 2012

Plus Points of Being Single


While I am aware of the growing titles that are stuck in my reading list waiting to be finished, I unfortunately cannot get my hands off each book that I get to hold whenever I am in a bookstore.

Three days ago, I was browsing over the shelves and found this little book entitled Oh, God, I'm Still Single by Rissa Singson-Kawpeng. I was typing on my mobile phone some words from another book but in the end, I walked out of the store carrying this thin, handy one.

Blame it on me for being still single which made me a perfect candidate to have this book, but as soon as I arrived home, I decided that reading the novel True Believer will have to be placed on hold for some time because I will be concentrating on this one. And by concentrate, I was able to finish the book in well, record-breaking three hours.

It might be a thin book but it's packed with the wonderful advice for those, as the book referred to, yet-to-be-married Christians. Having those 10 guidelines, it gave enlightenment on some of the things that had bothered or perhaps, confused me for some time. I knew some of the things discussed in there for I had been practicing them for a while now. However, I particularly loved Lesson Number 9 which tackled setting one's boundaries. It really shed light about my questions about decoding two people's relationship status (read: if it's just MU, MOMOL or really official) in plain, simple explanation (quoted from the book):

1. Don't let any man treat you like you're his girlfriend, unless he's made it EXPLICITLY clear. If there are doubts in your head, then the answer is you're not.

2. Don't let him hold your hand,put his arm around you or kiss you affectionately (even on the cheek) unless he's committed to you.


3. Don't let him have things for free. Your time and company is valuable. So, if he wants that, let him know it's a role of a girlfriend and he won't get it unless he's willing to pay the price.


I didn't regret spending a few pennies for that book. I may have been single for the longest time now but then, just like what the book said, waiting could be difficult, given the pangs of loneliness that could strike at any given time. Yet, being single is also a finite time for a lot of things and discoveries.

I know that someone's patiently waiting for me out there too. And if my age is no longer in the calendar, worry not -- it's still in the thermometer.


Monday, February 20, 2012

Post Valentine Flick: Unofficially Yours



Just when I thought Valentine's day syndrome had gone past, to me, it just didn't end yet. A week after watching The Vow, my feet brought me again to the cinema this me to watch Unofficially Yours.

What happens when two people with different perspectives about love and relationships meet unexpectedly? The story revolves around Macky (John Lloyd Cruz), a depressed young man who's been contemplating on why he had several failed relationships and Ces (Angel Locsin), a modern-day belle who is afraid of commitments. it starts with their one-night encounter with each other; which would soon be followed by another opportunity. This time as work buddies when Macky, who was a dentist by profession, decides to venture in the world of journalism by becoming a writer for one of the country's famous broadsheets. And as luck would have it, he gets to be trained by the same girl he once met and had a steamy encounter with. Their sexy adventures continue but the time they spend together also paved way for them to know each other; with him taking time to court Ces with the hope that the one night stand would  eventually lead to a serious relationship and with her confessing a painful past with her ex-boyfriend. The main reason why she eluded love all along.

I loved the plot though I got kinda shocked on the beginning. I loved the part when the two of them were singing VST& Company's Ikaw ang Aking Mahal (John Lloyd can have such a great voice if he wants to!) I enjoyed the whole movie and their chemistry though I'll have to warn those who would like to watch the film to not bring kids with them as much as possible because there are some scenes that might shock their minds. But if you'd like a feel good movie, I can suggest that you watch Unofficially Yours as part of your must-see.  

Saturday, February 18, 2012

An Engagement in Dream Land


I woke this morning with yet another weird dream. I found myself walking in this mini-park in Eastwood, the same route going to my office at 6 am. I know it was that early because the sun isn’t up and the wind is still chilly – as if it is just the “ber” month.

In that dream, I saw J, the guy I dated a year ago. He was in his usual, plain outfit of white T-shirt and denim jeans. We walked until we reached this restaurant, Seafood Island. What happened next was really, really unbelievable. Right there, in front of people (who to me was unfamiliar) he just knelt, opened a box with a ring and asked me the question.

I got engaged to J– (at least) in my dream.

My assumption was I said an affirmative yes because we were walking happily hand-in-hand afterwards. But when I woke up, despite the smile in my face and the “why” in my mind, I tried to shrug that dream off. Given the situation, as I see it, it could just be that the dream was trying to relate to the fact that people around me are shifting gears in their relationships and in their lives.

But I can’t forget how cute and sincere he was when he asked me those four words.



photo from Google

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Pre-Valentine Movie: The Vow


This post is sort of long overdue. I got the chance to see the movie The Vow over the weekend just before Valentine's day. I was browsing through SM Cinemaa's website and found a synopsis for this film. I found it interesting so I decided to spend time and money to see it.

The movie that starred Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams was inspired by the story of real-life couple Kim and Krickitt Carpenter whose marriage was put to a test when an accident leaves Krickitt in a coma and causes her to have severe memory loss and how Kim tries his best to win her heart again. Prior to watching the film, I had read about their story before when it was published in the book Chicken Soup for the Couple's Soul. What I felt after reading their story in the book and seeing the film was just the same. I was moved and inspired with the amount of love they have for each other and the devotion they have towards the relationship and the promise that they made to each other.
 
I recommend this movie to people in committed relationships. I even suggested this movie to my married friends because given the fact that marriages seem to be a short-lived thing these days, the story will inspire people on how to strengthen that bond. I might have seen the film by myself but I still was able to learn lessons from it.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

One of the Chosen Entries

Just in case you'll be that lazy to click on the link, I'm re-posting the entry I had submitted to The Background Story's photo essay contest:


My stories have always started with "once upon a time" 
for I believed love only exists in fairy tales. 
But you came along to write 
"and they lived happily ever after" in it. 

The Reason Behind the Special V-day

In the previous post, I scribbled how simple this day went. Only to find out that something wonderful is bound to happen. Which I will narrate here.

For quite a while, I had been following this blog, The Background Story which I first learned from my former supervisor. Over the past week, they announced that they will be having a contest in time for Valentine's Day. The mechanics were just simple. All one has to do is send a photo and caption on the subject  Love, how it ends and begins again. And they'll have it featured in their blog if the entry is chosen.

Now, while creating the caption isn't a problem, I am not really a photo enthusiast unlike my younger brother. But I remember one special shot I have kept. And upon knowing that some things are really worth a try, I decided to give it a shot -- a long shot at best, to say the least.

The credits? Complete with my middle initial in it.
To see the other entries, click here

Imagine my surprise when I checked the website tonight. The entry I submitted was among the top five. Just a snippet of information, those were my the wedding rings of my mom and my dad and everything from the lights to the embroidered pillow were improvised and no Photoshop manipulation was even used.  For the longest time, I had detached myself to the creative writer that I once was. And I just wanted to test if the magic was still there. I tried to put myself in a certain shoe. I won't deny it; I am waiting for that person who shall write "and they lived happily ever after" in my own situation, which inspired me to come up with the caption.

While there is no monetary prize for joining this contest, the happiness within me is already enough. And it's now that I realized there is a certain reason why I gifted myself with something today.

A Simple Valentine's Day

My Valentine's Day went to be simple as expected. I left home after lunch to fulfill my promise of returning to Starbucks in the mall near my former office. A week ago, I was invited by the friendly barista to watch a live band perform in their branch. So, date or no date, off I went. I also spent time meeting one of my former office mates, Beth for a chat over ice cream and a mere solemn period in one of my happy places, Fully Booked. I was surprised because I heard their branch play a rather nice version of James Taylor's Everyday. It was then followed by The Script's The Man Who Can't Be Moved which reminded me of one of my friends (Hi, Jeff Z!) as it's one of his favorite group and the song was actually one of my anthems. Funny but I did not leave the store until the song was done playing it (:-p)

I got myself a new journal to take the place of my present one which has a few blank pages left, immersed over a good book, a tall Java Chip Frappuccino and a slice of Oreo cheesecake.

Before I left today, I was able to log in and check for recent developments and as instinct hit me, I found one new comment that needed my approval. And maybe, Valentine's day in a way has some magic in it for I arrived home to another surprise.

Want to know what it is? Please check out the next post :-).

Monday, February 13, 2012

Valentine's Day and an Old E-mail

I was busy checking and arranging my belongings this morning when I came across an old email entitled Growing With Someone which I have kept in my time capsule (yes, I do have one). It's Valentine's Day tomorrow and while I will be celebrating it by myself (yes, just like the years back), I shall post the content of the email instead.
Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse. "You don't own because you didn't ask." God said. Not only I asked for a spouse, but also explained what kind of spouse I wanted.
 I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful one. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamed about. As time went by, I added the required list of my wanted spouse. One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart. 
“My servant, I cannot give you what you want.” 
 I asked, “Why God?” 
 God said, “Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I do are true and right.”
 I asked God, “I don’t understand. Why can’t I have what I ask from you?”
 God answered, “I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your own self. It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile; or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel; or someone forgiving, however, you can still hide revenge; someone understanding, however, you are very insensitive.”
 He then said to me, “It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time in finding someone who already have the qualities you want.” 
 Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh. You will see yourself in him and both of you will be one. Marriage is like school. It is a life-long education. It is where you and your partner make adjustments and aim not merely to please each other, but to be better human beings and to make a solid teamwork. I don’t give you a perfect partner because you are not perfect either. Instead, I would give you a partner with whom you would grow together.”
What will be your plans for Valentine's Day? I've got mine planned since last week. It won't really be that special but I'd like to think I'm doing this for a change. After all, there's a point when someone said, you need not be a couple to celebrate V-day.

I just hope this rainy weather won't be spoiling the fun.

Friday, February 10, 2012

80 Days, 1771 Calls Later

I wrote my last email today minutes before I left home. I had to face another episode of abrupt departure -- and it saddens me nonetheless. It was something I had been keeping mum about for almost a month but now that the day came, there is this sharp pain in my heart.

You see, when I got accepted in this job two months ago, I had made up my mind that this is something I want to keep. The job was supposed to be good for three years and I had decided that I would want to stay in the project for that duration. So, this news really left me puzzled and in a way devastated, though I tried my best to hide it.

From Monday up to the last moment, the thought of D-day never sunk into my mind. I remember telling my mom last Monday how I really wanted to stay. The thought of Friday was like waiting to leave home -- balikbayan style.


It breaks my heart because I really didn't want to go. It was what I kept telling mom the whole week. I am not prepared to leave. I knew that I had found a place where I'd be okay. Where I'd be happy. Kat and Beth were the representation of what Tita F and Tita V had prayed for for me -- they were wonderful colleagues. The same with M. I may not have shared much conversations with him, and even finding it a bit awkward to talk, but that's not a reason for me to not speak of reputable words.

There are just things, situations and people that are beyond words to describe and deeds where thank you might not be enough.

Now, it's going to be no flowers, no Valentine date and again, no job. But rather than thinking of the first two, I am more concerned of the last one. Losing it is like losing half of myself.

But as painful as it could be, goodbyes are always necessary; and the universe won't dare to care even if you refuse.

For sure, the morning after will not be this easy. Things will linger on.

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Chivalry Isn't Dead

Just before my day at the office ended, this idea crossed my mind. If you were reading my posts, I narrated here the story of how one person surprised my friend at that moment when I was already having these misconceptions that differentiate a man and a woman when it comes to significant occasions.

Today, he was at it again and likewise, I am the witness to this person's simple but sweet gesture. Just hours after we had this pre-birthday celebration for another friend, Beth, he came into our aisle and placed these in her and Kat's desk:

Sweet at nakakakilig ba gusto nyo?

After what I saw today, I wish to believe that yes, chivalrous acts still exists in this modern world. That despite living a modified life, there still are people who knows how to make hearts melt. While I was not the celebrant, I can't help but feel giddy and restrain my lacrimal glands from betraying me. But I told Beth with all honesty that if I were in her place, and I'd be the recipient of his simple but heartwarming deed, I will not hold back those tears -- and just let my heart melt with it.

He might not be that vocal with sending out a greeting during significant occasions but he knows how to make up to it in another way -- which is rather special.

I can't help but agree with what Beth said -- the girl that won him over is really lucky. I can't help but wish that the person I'm waiting for would be just like him too.

One blogger said that you should give a man an "A" for effort when he merits. In this case, I can clearly say he's got the right to claim one.



Monday, February 6, 2012

My Current Anthem




You and Me
Lifehouse

What day is it? And in what month?
This clock never seemed so alive
I can't keep up and I can't back down
I've been losing so much time

'Cause it's you and me and all of the people with nothing to do
Nothing to lose
And it's you and me and all other people
And I don't know why, I can't keep my eyes off of you

One of the things that I want to say just aren't coming out right
I'm tripping on words
You've got my head spinning
I don't know where to go from here

'Cause it's you and me and all of the people with nothing to do
Nothing to prove
And it's you and me and all other people
And I don't know why, I can't keep my eyes off of you

There's something about you now
I can't quite figure out
Everything she does is beautiful
Everything she does is right

'Cause it's you and me and all of the people with nothing to do
Nothing to lose
And it's you and me and all other people
And I don't know why, I can't keep my eyes off of you
and me and all other people with nothing to do
Nothing ton,  prove
And it's you and me and all other people
And I don't know why, I can't keep my eyes off of you

What day is it?
And in what month?
This clock never seemed so alive


It started Saturday night while I was watching a program on TV. and up until now, this song, You and Me from the American band Lifehouse has been ringing in my head.

Just like the story, I found this song to be somewhat special and powerful; to which my realizations would be found in a separate post.
  

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Decoding Reasons


While this person has been in my mind lately, I still don't know the reason why he came in and is supposed to be there.

I probably won't know yet until later. And I wonder when will that day be.

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Two Celebrations in One Afternoon

Just a quick post for tonight. I went to attend my office mate Kat's post-birthday celebration. You know that in this post, her birthday really was yesterday, Feb.3.

But aside from a birthday gathering, today was a day for two occasions as today also happened to be hers and her hubby, Vick's wedding anniversary. Talk about another year added to life and the first 365 days (and more) of wedded bliss. I thought I'd be missing this one because I woke up with a terrible stiff neck this morning but then, paracetamol thankfully did some of its magic and so, off I went.

Anyway, let these photos tell you of how we joined the merriment:


Here I am with Vick, Kat and Beth together with her hubby Dan. Yes. My dear gorgeous office mates are both taken (READ: MARRIED) and as for me, I'm the only single still standing. Enough said =)




What's a party without food? These two whips up really delicious dishes and tonight's occasion was no exception. Who'd have thought there's another creative way of preparing sausages (he called it hairy hotdogs). I personally loved the shrimp pasta (well, being the seafood monger that I am) and the liver stew? It won Dan over. No doubt about it.


The nanny and the girls, full and happy =)

Friday, February 3, 2012

Surprises for the Birthday Girl

It's already the fourth of the month and I realized I haven't written anything the past few days.

Today happens to be Kat's birthday. It was also on this day that some things just slipped in my mind. Questions about guy behavior and things close to it. While Beth and I were actually giddy in excitement for this day tagged as someone's debut, M came today and upon probably hearing us talk, broke the momentum by asking this to Kat:"

"Birthday mo ba?" (Is it your birthday?)

I had to do a Vice Ganda-like punchline (pero promise, na-guilty ako dun sobra) because all the obvious signs are already in front of him; from us talking about it, our big boss and office mates sending out their greetings (yes, imported from Queensland) to our office system's calendar. To which Kat whispered to me:

"Hindi man lang bumati!" (He didn't bother to greet.)

Now, I found it weird. I was asking at the back of my head if it's really natural for men to be forgetful when it comes to dates and special occasions. After all,I do know some people, guys who are just like that -- they switch to amnesia mode when it speaks of the significant dates. It's as if it is the law of the universe that women are supposed to be the one who should be keen to dates and details. But what came next caught me in awe: I saw him give this huge chocolate cupcake to Kat and in his soft, monotone voice heard him say happy birthday.

(*insert giddy move here*)

In fairness, with what I had witnessed and the way I wanted to think of it, he probably wanted to show some some originality And if I were to be asked, I'd say, he won it.

But what really went for the win was the birthday card that was given by her husband. I swear, I was not the birthday girl, but when Kat showed it to me and read it, I had to control tears from welling from my eyes.

Well, there are just people who are that lucky to find love and the person to share it with. And she's one of them.